Nothing has really happened to inspire me to write this but I feel it needs saying. It feels like now, it's not relevant, is the best time to write it; especially seeing as everyone thinks you must be dealing with a problem if you put it down in words.
Why do people assume you are jealous if you don't like someone? Where did that ridiculous idea actually come from? I am so sure it only happens with girls too. If I don't like another girl I am instantly made to feel as though everyone assumes I am jealous of her. Quite frankly, haven't you ever just thought that maybe, just maybe I don't like her because she's an absolute tool? Of course not, that wouldn't create enough drama within a fairly mediocre life would it?
Women are pretty much made to compete with each other all the time. I love groups of girls purely for the fact that to reassure one another, when a girl doesn't like us, we instinctively announce that they must be jealous. At what point did we think that someone must be jealous of us just because they don't like us? There is no reason behind it. Anyway, if you actually believe someone is jealous of you, doesn't that kind of make you an egotistical tool anyway? Do you think you are better than that person? Just saying...
I hate it. I really do. I hate the thought that, rather than ask why I dislike a person, I have to be subjected to the whole 'oh she's just jealous of you' routine. How dare another person even suggest that without actually finding out the real reason? Conclusions are easier to jump to after all.
It's healthy to feel jealousy. It's unhealthy to let it consume you. It's also unhealthy to make assumptions about how another person feels before actually finding out. Trust me, I am a doctor, sort of. Not really.
I fully appreciate the female form but if I don't think someone's attractive it doesn't mean I am jealous of them; that's just my taste. If I don't agree with another woman's opinion and say I dislike her morals, it doesn't mean I am jealous; that's just my opinion. Jealousy is a word thrown around with no real thought. It's a cop out. It's a lazy way of finding out the real reasons and it seems to fuel conversations for hours. Especially between the person you're 'jealous' of and others. Funny that.
Maybe it will never change. Perhaps this will forever be the norm, especially between women but there's one thing I will not be having as part of my 'norm' and that's feeling bad about not liking someone. With such a huge amount of people on this planet there will come a time where I will just never get on with them; again, doesn't mean I'm jealous, maybe I just have certain standards.
Hannah xox
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